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The Ego Tango?

Do you have colleagues, family members or neighbours that just ‘drive you crazy’ sometimes? Do you occasionally find yourself feeling disrespected by others?

In my book, The Ego Tango, I can show you what you may be unknowingly doing that could be sabotaging your business and personal relationships.

Prefer to listen?

This small green book has some BIG ideas. The Ego Tango is now available on Audible.

So, whether you are in your car, walking the dog, or out for a run, you can now listen and learn. Your communication skills will thank you for it! And so will your family, friends, colleagues, pets and kids!

The Ego Tango Videos

Are you are more of a visual person?

You can watch Amy’s videos on The Ego Tango. This collection of stories takes approximately 35 minutes to watch.

A peek into The Ego Tango

The Key to Household Harmony

(Also known as The Mom and Dad Story)

My amazing and supportive parents, Bud and Claire, have been happily married for over 60 years. Like all couples, they have great moments as well as occasional not-so-pretty moments. I hope they won’t disown me for taking artistic license with the following story.

Bud is in the kitchen. Claire is in the living room.

“Claire, where are the car keys?!” says Bud in an annoyed, condescending tone. The unspoken word idiot hangs at the end of the sentence. Claire’s ego is immediately triggered.

“I don’t know, Bud. You had them last!” Claire is pleased because she turned it back on him.

In fact, she has one-upped Bud with concrete evidence of his apparent lack of intelligence. Unfortunately, the evening they will now have will not be a Norman Rockwell scene.

The good news is that three of their seven kids are full-time communication coaches. Imagine the same interaction after Claire has received a little free coaching.

“Claire, where are the car keys?!”

Before she reacts to the unspoken message, Claire remembers something one of her very clever children told her. She pauses, takes a deep breath, and responds in a calm, confident, gentle tone.

“I don’t know, Bud, let me come help you find them.”

Bud is smart. He knows that if he keeps using such a nasty tone, he’s going to look stupid. He responds in a more positive, respectful way.

“No problem, I’ll keep looking. Thanks.”

Because Claire chose a different response, Bud’s behavior shifted positively.

To find out how you can apply 'The Frame Game', check out Partner Mindset Technique number 4, in the book.

Testimonials

In her book, Amy will tell you many similar scenarios that happened to her, and how she turned them around and made them into a positive experience. She has a very engaging and energetic style, and you will just want to keep reading. To make it even more beneficial for you, she throws in some self-reflecting questions after each chapter, making it almost into one of her private coaching sessions. The Ego Tango will help you take a deep breath, analyze the situation, decide if your ego is willing to take the blow, and then present your opponent with a solution that has a positive outcome for both parties. It is applicable for personal or professional relationships. The book is a good read and I highly recommend it.
Sarah Santacroce
LinkedIn Consultant & Founder of The Humane Marketing Revolution
I've just finished my first read through of Undoing the Ego Tango and I'm very impressed. I really like the respect and empathy focus as well as the undoing of assumptions and the emphasis on awareness. Really good stuff that is presented in such an informative and accessible way. I imagine that these simple, yet vital strategies change not only how people behave at work but also how they behave in every relationship in their lives. Brava girl!
Dr. Bobbi French
Psychiatrist and author of 'Finding Me in France'
The book is amazing. I love the simplicity and how it moves people to action.
Adrijana Strnad
Coach, Trainer, and Facilitator
Amy’s book helped us recently during a family crisis. There is a Buddhist saying: ‘When the student is ready, the teacher appears’. The timing on reading Undoing the Ego Tango was like that. The Predator / Prey distinction prepared me for an emergency and made a difference for all of us. I’m grateful to Amy Carroll for her wisdom.
Ellen Snortland
Writer, Author, and Activist
Amy Carroll’s engaging and very readable book approaches the topic of communication by taking a closer look at a number of her own life stories and experiences. Her very energetic style, drawn from her background in improvisational theatre, highlights how we are constantly tested by situations that can easily escalate into conflict. Amy Carroll highlights the skills and attitudes required to positively confront conflict and to effectively use these situations as opportunities to strengthen and reinforce interpersonal relationships.
George Kohlrieser Ph.D
Professor of Leadership and Organizational Behavior, IMD and author of 'Hostage at the Table'